But you will eventually come to terms with your loss, and the intense feeling will subside.
If you are visiting this page because you have suffered a still birth or miscarriage, we would like to say how sorry we are for your loss. You need to allow yourself time to grieve for your baby. The emotions you will experience are incredibly powerful so be good to yourself too and don't take on anything too demanding until you feel ready. Remember grieving is a very personal process that has no time limit or "right way" to do it.
Click to the right to watch a video from Best Beginnings on bereavement.
- Express yourself. Talking is often a good way to soothe painful emotions. Talking to a friend, family member, health professional or counsellor can begin the healing process.
- Allow yourself to feel sad. It's a healthy part of the grieving process.
- Keep your routine up. Keeping up simple things like walking the dog can help.
- Sleep. Emotional strain can make you very tired. If you're having trouble sleeping, see your GP.
- Eat healthily. A healthy, well-balanced diet will help you cope.
- Avoid things that "numb" the pain, such as alcohol. It will make you feel worse one the numbness wears off.
- Go to counselling if it feels right for you - but perhaps not straight away. Counselling may be more useful after a couple of weeks or months. Only you will know when you're ready.
Need help right now?
- NHS 111
Want to talk to someone?
- Sands helpline 0808 164 3332 Monday to Friday 9.30-5.30 Tuesday and Thursday 9.30 am-9.30 pm
- Griefchat on Sands website run by trained bereavement counsellors Monday to Friday 9-9 can be emailed outside of these hours . Details on Sands website
Want to find support on social media and via apps?
- Baby Buddy App
- Hampshire Lanterns support group
- Sands Bereavement support app
- Want to talk to other women and families who have been through it? Search #SandsImpact to view their online community where you can talk to other bereaved families. It also offers support for extended family members
- Miscarriage Association
- has lots of resources to support you after miscarriage and baby loss
- You don't feel able to cope with overwhelming emotions or daily life
- The intense emotions are not subsiding
- You're not sleeping
- You have symptoms of depression and/or anxiety
- Your relationships are suffering
- You're having sexual problems
- You're becoming accident-prone
- You're caring for someone who isn't coping well
- You can't get out of bed
- You neglect yourself or your family - for example, you don't eat properly
- You feel you can't go on without the person you've lost
- The emotion is so intense it's affecting the rest of your life - for example, you can't face going to work or you're taking your anger out on someone else